Often when a couple reaches the crisis point in their relationship where divorce or breaking up is on the table, one partner believes that ending the relationship is the only solution while the other would like to try repairing it.
Sometimes both partners may be considering ending the relationship or filing for divorce, but are not sure it’s the right path.
This is when Discernment Counseling can be helpful.
WHAT IS DISCERNMENT COUNSELING?
Discernment Counseling is different from traditional couples counseling in that its intention is not to improve the relationship, and the counselors do not assume that you both want to continue with the marriage.
Discernment Counseling is meant to give both partners an opportunity to examine what has happened in the relationship, see problems from both sides and evaluate the possibility of resolving some problems.
It can also help you have more clarity and confidence in making a good decision about your relationship. At the end of the Discernment process the counselor can help you find other professionals to either help you have a healthy divorce/break-up, or help you rebuild your relationship.
WHAT TO EXPECT:
Discernment Counseling is short term, usually no more than 5 sessions. The first session is two hours. Additional sessions range from 1.5 to 2 hours. Sessions are divided up between sessions as a couple, and individual sessions with each partner.
In the process the counselor will also be able to shed light on the issues that brought the couple to this point, and what good couples counseling might be able to offer them for hope or resolution.
WHO CAN BENEFIT FROM DISCERNMENT COUNSELING?
- Couples where one or both partners are uncertain about ending the relationship or divorce, but are considering it.
- Couples who have filed for divorce but are having second thoughts.
- Couples who have tried couples counseling without success, and therefore have assumed the relationship should end.
- Couples who feel they might not want to be together anymore, but have children together and want help making the best choice for their relationship and their children.
- Couples who have lost hope but are open to exploring whether any hope can be found.
DISCERNMENT COUNSELING IS NOT RECOMMENDED FOR:
- Couples where one partner has made a final decision to divorce or end the relationship.
- Couples with a recent history of physical or emotional abuse of any kind
- If there is an order for protection on either partner.
- If one partner is coercing the other to participate.
If you have any questions or interest in this process, you can contact these therapists from our clinic: